Comments on: My 19th Hole With The Golfer

By: Cassie

Cassie — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 02:37:38 +0000

You can never stay friends with an ex after a break-up is what I have learned.
Reason 1. They start dating someone else or you do and the new person refuses to let ya’ll see each other. Friendship ruined.
Reason 2. You can never be completley honest about the really hot guy that just asked you out at the coffee shop and he can’t tell you about the great girl from the gym. Trust is broken.
Reason 3. If you stay friends with someone that it didn’t work with to start, then you run the risk of falling in that comfortable zone and may wind up settling.
So based on these, Ex’s are big NO!!!!!!!!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 00:05:19 +0000

Thank God for Cabernet and pedicures is the advice I have on this one!

I think the only way a true friendship can work between exes, is when both parties are in other relationships though really.

XOXO

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 21:28:55 +0000

LOVE LOVE that post!!! You are such a good writer! And boy, can we ALL relate!! Great job!

By: Cassie

Cassie — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:00:29 +0000

Laura,
You remind me of Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City! I just love how you write
As far as being friends with my ex…its never happened to me before. My very first love (dated for four years) and I have not even spoken for over three years…our emotional past and broken hearts have just left us not worthy of eachothers time, which is indeed sad. and every relationship after that…still not friends. I might need to read one of those books you posted!
Do you post stories like this often? If so, you need to send me the link more often.

By: Mandy

Mandy — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 15:33:46 +0000

I wish I had some insight for you on this one! But I got nothing!

I do remember the “break-up” phone call while I was on a TV shoot and we were trying to decide how you were going to break it off with golfer when he got home that night from work. My boss still laughs about my friend in Chicago and how I was on the phone with her coaching her through her break-up. He said he learned a lot that day!

I love you!!!

By: Anne Marie

Anne Marie — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:39:12 +0000

In my experience it’s never possible to be friends with an ex. They never deliver the unbiased dedicated support that you expect and receive from your friends.

In retrospect, every time I “befriended” an ex, it was to use them as an emotional crutch until I was ready to truly move on from the relationship. A lot more goes into moving on, than just breaking up with your partner. For me, that’s always the hard part.

Here are three things I always try to remind myself:

1. Wounds heal
2. Pain eventually goes away
3. Emotional distress is life preparing you for bigger things